What Do You Do When You’re So Frustrated You Want to Scream

By July 17, 2016Life Lessons

I am really, really mad right now. I’m so upset that my muscles hurt and I feel like screaming and thrashing. I even feel like crying from the stress of the situation. Have you ever been in this kind of emotional state?

The circumstances don’t really matter to let me cover the points I want to write about today. Let me just say I am very frustrated about a situation with my work and some people I depend on. Today was not a good day! And now I have to deal with it.

But here’s the thing . . . I have learned from experience that when we are in such a carnal state (and yes, my flesh is screaming right now), it’s not the right time to react. It’s not even the right time to say very much. I know. I’ve made the mistake of letting my frustration drive my actions and the results are usually not very good! In fact, they are usually regrettable. 

As hard as it may seem, the very best thing to do when frustration has you by your neck is to be quiet. Let some time pass. Get a perspective. And try to calm your nerves as much as you can. This may take a little time. You may need to take a walk and get some fresh air. But the goal right now is to keep your emotions in check so they don’t do damage!

There is nothing wrong with anger. Jesus was angry several times. And of course, the Old Testament includes many times when God was angry and even disgusted with His people. So don’t beat yourself up for feeling angry or frustrated about an issue. 

But there is a tipping point. And here is what the Word of God says about it, “Be angry, and do not sin.” Ephesians 4:26.

So yes, feel the anger. But don’t allow it to be the driving force behind your actions that could cause damage to you or to others. For me, this command is why it’s so important to keep my lips sealed when I am frustrated and angry. Again, the Bible has a very clear instruction to us about that, Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.”  James 3:10-12

Anger and frustration often serve as the fuel for toxic words, put-downs and mean statements! But once those anger-Feather in the Windfilled words are out of your mouth, there’s no getting them back! They are like feathers caught by the wind, never to be recaptured. 

The Bible also teaches us a couple other really important lessons about anger. It’s found in the second half of Ephesians 4:26. Here’s the whole verse, “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,  nor give place to the devil.”  

God doesn’t want anger and frustration to mature into resentment and bitterness. He doesn’t want us in the stress negative emotions can foster. And He doesn’t want us to get into unforgiveness. 

I could go into the chorus from Taylor Swift’s hit song, Shake It Off! but I won’t traumatize you with my off-key voice. However, that’s exactly what we’re to do. We are to shake off the negative feelings. We are to forgive. We are to rid our souls of the junk before it has time to fester. 

I’d like to say my heart is now totally free of the frustration I feel about my associates. But I’m not quite there, yet. I’ll get there. And as I do, I will think about how to handle the issue in a way that is right and respectful and appropriate for all of us. We will get through this . . . and as a child of God and a citizen in His kingdom, I have a responsibility to be kind rather than harsh. Respectful rather than rude. And open rather than closed off (I have to admit, I think the Holy Spirit is talking to me right now. “Yes, Sir. I will obey.”)

Yes, obedience is the trump card. No matter how I feel, as a follower of Jesus Christ I am called to obey. I am called to empty myself so the Spirit of God can fill me . . . even if my flesh doesn’t want to comply!

For now I’m going to take a walk. Pray. And think about what God’s Word is saying to me:Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7. When I return I’ll have a conversation with my associates and make sure we’re all good, which will lead to the fulfillment of His command to free myself from all anxiety before I hit those sheets tonight for a good and peaceful sleep!

I hope this open-heart message has been helpful to you . . . be blessed as you continue to grow in the love and knowledge of Jesus Christ. I’m off for my much needed walk!


  • Anne says:

    I really needed that and I feel much better now. Thank God for you. Anger that makes you feel like your heart is coming out of its cavity and you want to cause the other person harm to make them feel how you’re feeling. Am glad that I read this and it will help me hundle myself much better next time. The fact that the bible talks about it makes me feel much better lest you start feeling guilty for sinning.

    • myself says:

      it did no help me at all still very angry all the time 🙁

      • Susan Gregory says:

        Meet with God. Submit to Him. Let His healing and truth soak into your heart. And learn about what true forgiveness really is. Most people think it’s accepting the person’s behavior. But that’s not it. It’s giving the anger, resentment, bitterness, etc. to Jesus. Letting go.

        One other little point that may help you: anger is a secondary emotion, meaning it’s fueled by another emotion. To help yourself, sit quietly and think about what’s underneath the anger. Get in touch with that and start to untangle the confusion that struggles can hold.

        I hope this helps . . .

  • Ravindran says:

    Hi Susan
    Thank you so much for refreshing me with your experience of what I am going through and helping me to understand that I need to keep quite and not through away toxic word that hurt other.I need to deal with my anger by completely surrendering to God and to love my son unconditionally.Please pray for me

  • Gloria says:

    Thank you so much Susan. It’s the first time I read your article and it happened at a good time. I was on the verge of getting a stroke because of anger and I prayed for a breakthrough. The Holy Spirit led me to this page and I could feel the relief as I read every sentence. May the Lord continue to use you and may you grow from strength to strength.

    • Susan Gregory says:

      Praise God, Gloria!

      He is so good and always faithful! I am so glad He pointed you to where you could receive 🙂

      Be blessed

      • Deborah Fogleman says:

        Hi Susan,

        I have been so-o-o-o frustrated and angry because of issues at work. Out of that frustration I googled, “What to do when you want to scream” and I was brought to your blog. Praise God! Thank you for helping me be quiet. I’ll be checking in on your blog from now on for other words of encouragement.


        • Susan Gregory says:

          Wow! God is so good and right on time!

          Love to you, dear one. I’m glad it helped.

        • Davia J says:

          This is exactly what I just googled!!!! Frustrated with issues at work too. I must say these scriptures are reassuring and brings about some measure of peace. Holy Spirit I resign.

  • Harriet Wallace says:

    Hi Susan
    I have to admit that the Holy Spirit is real in my life. The former me would have fussed and carried on if i was offended. However, i realize that i have been under the direction of the Holy Spirit who guides and protects me. Therefore, when faced with adversity He quiets me and seals my lips with His “crazy glue” t where am unable to speak until He releases me. He also gives me” a piece’ when dealing with tough situations. I marvel at my own reactions!. Every thing you have written about i have practiced. Don’t get me wrong…… i always go back to clear matters up and the response from the offender is always good. Why……because of my approach and the aide of the Holy Spirit. To God be the glory for the great things he has done and will continue to do in my life. Susan, continue to allow God to use you, for you are doing a great work. I have been bless by your many articles through your writing ministry. So you cannot stop writing!!!! You have tooooo many readers depending on you.

    • Susan Gregory says:

      Thank you, Harriet.

      Yes, God’s Holy Spirit working in us, along with our decision to walk in the Spirit rather than the flesh, is where transformation, peace, and freedom come. Thanks for sharing your lovely message. God is good!

      Be blessed!

    • Drea says:

      Thank you so much for ur inspiring message.. Yes, it really helps me a lot,, somehow I am currently going through frustration, anger and unforgiveness..somehow i really wanna scream but I just keep inside and trying to control my emotion., but still unconciously during my sleeping time my leader heard me screaming., just I knew that as i woke up in the morning as she told me.. Yes,, i was really so stressful…people also could feel though im trying to be ok…
      But thank you., thank God for using u to speak in my life through his word and in ur life…God bless

  • Lesyle says:

    Thank you for sharing your experience & the scriptures needed when I get frustrated and angry. This will help me in the workplace and family life (especially family because family cannot be replaced).

  • Tshepo B says:

    I really thank God for the revelation of His words through. You made a great impact in my life and my situation as of now. You are an angel. God bless you and continue to be His vessel.

  • Sbongile says:

    Thank you so much for a wonderful message, I feel truly blessed and encouraged.

    You are truly an inspiration.

    God bless you

  • Sarah Overstreet says:

    Your timing and your message was right on point for a situation that I am currently dealing with. I must say that I have managed to keep my mouth closed and ask God for guidance, direction and protection in this situation and he has instructed me on what I need to do. His voice is so clear when we listen for his Word. Handling issues in a peaceful way and allowing God to do the rest is good for the heart and soul. Thank you again.

  • Nedhy Sawyer says:

    Dear Sue,

    Thank you for your refreshing words and reminder of who we are in Christ Jesus. May the LORD continue giving strength in your walk and sharing of his word with all of us. THANKS again and praise the LORD for his unfailing love and direction.

    • Jocelyn Winn says:

      Amen to your comments, Susan! The Holy Spirit can be our guide at all times, if only we would surrender to His excellent ways. I think about how many human lives could be saved if people (e.g. police officers and all the citizens they represent) would know God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Then they would understand that they are not each other’s enemy. But isn’t that like Satan to turn us against each other to kill, steal and destroy so that his mission is accomplished in the earth. We all must learn to Love and obey God and only then can we truly Love people.

    • flora says:

      This so hit home as I am also a supervisor at work and I fund myself always asking my Father for patience for wisdom and knowledge to deal with everyone at work. I find myself asking the Holy Spirit for help each night at work in every area of my job.I do ask the Holy Spirit to calm my spirit down when I find myself getting upset at a coworker or when someone at works gets me mad or upset, I find I have to take a time out to calm down..when I was reading this..I was so seeing myself in this story. Thank you

  • Margaret says:

    Thank you Susan, for your obediance. I have a hard time here at work and get frustered and angry. I am going to take what you have said and learn to apply it to my situation. The Holy Spirit is teaching me to take baby steps

    Be Blessed

  • cel says:

    Dear Susan,
    Thank you so much for that on-time message..I am on to that feeling today, I didn’t even have a good sleep because I was really hurt and I want to scream because I’m so mad…but, I felt relieved when I’ve read your encouraging words…

    Thank you and God bless you more and more

  • janice Young says:

    Thanks Susan greetings in the name of Jesus, Susan I am so overwhelmed to my neck my land lord just played the biggest prank on me but I haven’t even shed a tear but keep praying that the God I serve shall intervene . waiting to be served with a three days notice. thanks Susan sure appreciate this at this time.
    God bless you Janice.

    • Bonne Evans says:

      I recently allowed a situation to brew, then, simmer, until it finally boiled over. I thought I was in the right. I raised my voice. No ugly words but not a Christ-like representation.
      It took humbling myself, on my knees, before the person who received my ire, apologizing for my actions.
      Everyday I pray a prayer suggested by KCM:
      “Lord, I’m yours to command and I’m reporting for duty. I am to do whatever You tell me. I am to walk in love, forgive those who wrong me. Obey the Word and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit no matter what.”
      That day I read a prayer but didn’t live it. I did ask God’s forgiveness and humbled myself.

    • Yvonne Rojas says:

      Thank you again Susan. Your timing is always right on time. Your words of inspiration. You;re truly blessed.

    • Barbara says:

      Timing is right

    • Angela Butler says:

      Good morning Susan, Thank you for these inspiring words, they are timely and appropriate. Your obedience to God is an example and a blessing. May God continue to bless you as you share His love with others….

  • Ioana says:

    God is teaching us to deal gracefully with this kind of situations! Thank you!

  • Angela Jackson says:

    For such a time as this.

    Needed this so badly.

    Thank you very much for your inspiration.

    • Joanna Lockwood says:

      Dear Susan,
      Wow I needed this more than you know! Thank you so much and praise God thank you Father for leading me to this by your Holy Spirit. I give God all the glory and thank Him for you.
      With every blessing in Christ

  • Angela Jackson says:

    For such a time as this needed this so badly.


  • Emma B. Stephens says:

    Thank you so much for the encouraging words. “Thou shall keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusts in thee” Isaiah 26:3. We must keep in mind God’s dealing with us – how we disregard him, don’t honor him, disappoint him, don’t obey him, don’t talk to him (pray), are not thankful. But He continues to love us, be gracious, merciful, and long suffering with us. He keeps providing for us, protecting us, guiding us . How do we think He feels about how we respond to others many of whom know nothing about Him? Because of Jesus, he forgives us when we confess. Let’s learn more about our God so that we can act more like Him.

  • Marilyn Olson says:

    This messege was so perfectly timed for me today. I was driving in my car, thinking over family misundstandings, hurts, and frustrations. I suddenly felt this pressure inside, and i just screamed as loud as I’ve ever screamed. Then I wept to God for help, just wondering if He could see how my heart was breaking. When I arrived home, and calmed some, I checked my email. I burst out laughing and thanking Him when I saw the title of your messege. Yes, He heard my screams, and saw my tears. Thank you for your ministry, God is working through it!!

    • Susan Gregory says:

      Oh, God is so good and His timing is perfect!

      I am glad you could laugh. It’s good medicine!

      Be blessed!

  • Maxine thorpe says:

    It’s always good to be constantly reminded of how we ought to deal with situations that could displease Jehovah if our reactions do not line up to his word. I have a new take on why the sun should not go down on my wrath. Thanks. I always felt it was only about forgiveness now I know it’s much much more than that aspect of Christian holy living. As you have pointed out, anger can certainly fester and create lasting ill feelings of bitterness and resentment. And, jehovah is proactive and is saving us from such. I will now always connect these dots.

  • Y. Smith says:

    Thank you. I needed this. Bless you.

  • Pumla says:

    Dear Suzan,

    Thank you for this message. I’m experiencing feelings of anger, anxiety and fear. On 14/07/2016 I was in a smash and grab, and through God’ grace and the power of my saviour’ blood I was not physically harmed. The car was damaged and so was I emotionally. I feel like getting a gun to protect myself however in the state I’m in it is not a good idea. I am requesting prayer to assist me to overcome this feelings of anger, fear and anxiety. I pray to God to help me forgive, heal and move on from this experience. I pray for a sound mind and for my heart to heal. I pray. In Jesus’ name, Amen. The Lord is my Shephered and I shall not fear!

  • Sharon Smith says:

    Thank you, I needed this message. I hoped you enjoyed your walk!

  • Toro says:

    I really needed to hear this beautiful message that I already know but God tends to remind like thru u so I thank Jesus for u n appreciate u putting this up here for all. I am currently frustrated angry upset mad heart n pain in my heart depressed stressed drained n wanna scream so loud more than anything but no one still wont hear me n my pain. God yes hears me n answers me helps me guide n etc He never gives up on me especially when I tend to almost give up then I think of Him n all He has done is doing n will continue to do for me n my lil family n my lil family keeps me going my 3 boys n their dad makes me not to want to give up but it’s a battle, but a battle that I give to God cus He fights all my battles and had kept me thus far bcus He loves me more than I love myself. I fail Him but thank u Jesus for never failing me n u keep calling me. Help me yo listen n do Your will n not my own. Show me my purpose in life help me be strong n go on In Jesus Name I Pray I love You Jesus so very very much You r my everything n more. Amen

    • Toro says:

      I need U more n more each day Jesus calm my spirit help my anxiety n panic attacks help my out burst help my crying. I love You Jesus n I’m in love with You Lord U R my everything. Help me Help me Help me.

    • Glenda says:

      This message is great. It came at a time when I really needed it. I was very angry today at one of my co-workers. I admit I did go off on them.
      Then I got this e-mail with this message and gave me such peace about the situation. Thanks very much in showing me how to handle things better.

      • Susan Gregory says:

        God is good and on time! Praise the Lord!

        Be blessed!

        • Shanna says:

          Love this ! This is what the world needs to hear right now learning to deal with anger. I know the blog in talking about the workplace but this is what America need to hear right now .

  • Kate says:

    Thank you Susan for this message that helped many, though I just opened it today. Yes, I agree with all that each one said, and we are all tempted to do so when bombarded with life’s troubles that our Savior forewarned us about. May we always remember too that “our anger does not bring the righteousness that God desires in us”. When we cannot pray, “we have a High Priest who intercedes on our behalf and He understands.” I need Him more than before.

  • Kedibone says:

    Going through some heavy emotions, confusion & anger issues now and this came just on time, thanks Suzan It makes complete sense…..off to my walk. Stay blessed.

  • Xochitl says:

    Just in time, thank you for the God given words of wisdom.

  • Elender says:

    I am feeling you. I am in a battle right now that has be baffled, bewildered, frustrated, angry, disappointed, misunderstood, disrespected, shut down, etc. I know its only because I care so much about doing the will of God in everything, everyday. I was to the point where I had to become silent just to keep my sanity. The toll of the issue started to manifest in my physical body and I had to get medical attention. The devil is a lie. I distanced myself from the situation first, picked myself up by the boot straps and did what the word of GOD required. I chose to fill my spirit. I was ministered to via the reading of the word. I can’t even began to describe how release came. I can only thank our Father above for giving us everything, and I do mean everything we need in HIS WORD! Too Blessed to be Stressed!

  • Deborah says:

    Rest assured that you are not alone in the struggle against our natural impulses. There are so many temptations these days to act out of the flesh rather than walk in the Spirit. Thank you for reminding us what God says about humility, and your example of Godly wisdom. Our words have power and we should use them wisely. Shalom!

  • Katrena says:

    I thought I was alone in this struggle. Lol. I too have learned to get to myself or not speak when I am angry. Some people don’t get it. They want to discuss it then or have their answer right away, not realizing if I speak when I’m upset they won’t like the answer.

  • Sarai says:

    I just read through this, this morning and just so happens, last night was when I was at that point. All starting from one person I was feeling very annoyed with, then off to do some shopping and couldn’t find anything I needed, or fitting any of the shoes I wanted. I was slowly getting frustrated, until I walked round and round then realising I’ve been in the store for over an hour and yet, still nothing.. I just wanted to scream out and cry right there in the store with my lovely older brother trying to cheer me up and not saying any discoursing words to make me feel worse that I already was. little did I know, I was walking in to the front door of the house with some upset family members. I washed all my dishes not saying a word, then off to my room to clean up all the clothes thrown around from the weekend. finally to sit in bed playing games on my phones and just crying my eyes I just felt so hurt…Came in to work this morning and couldn’t start without speaking with God first to help me get through today.
    “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7……To finish off reading this page with this verse, I am now feeling some sort of peace. THANK YOU JESUS.

  • JudyT says:

    i have had so much anger lately…your message was so timely! I am very frustrated as I try to find a job. All these old feelings come back as I am in dire straits and am starting to remember how ‘easy’ my life use to be. Where the Lord has me at present is not an easy place, as I feel all alone! Thank you for your timely words; they really helped me see I need to keep my eyes on Jesus and not my circumstances!

  • Karroll says:

    This is a peace-filled message and it really spoke to my heart. Thanks and may God continue to bless you.

  • Alicia Baptiste says:

    Thank you for sharing. This is such a reminder of what is required of me as a child of God. You took me back to a place when I had to make the decision to be carnal or spiritual and thankfully I chose to be spiritual. My boss was the stressor but God is my deliverer. May you continue to be a blessing to others and may God continue to enlarge your coast. Blessings.

  • Rachel says:

    This message hit home with me. I had a similar experience at work. I have prayed for strength and that God will continue to help me be quick to listen, quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. God bless you for this message and your continued prayer for those like me seeking correction and spiritual growth.



  • Madeline Evans says:

    Thanks for this wonderful message. It can be very difficult to control our anger when we become upset. You make it clear that God requires our obedience; allow Him to control our emotions. He is a forgiving God and would like us to also be forgiving of others. May God continue to bless you to bring words of encouragement to others.

  • Denise says:

    Thank you all for your honesty and great suggestions. I have struggled with this all my life and was imprisoned in a life of bitter resentment. I honesty thought I did not like people if they were not acting on my terms. I was taught this way of dissecting and catorizing people from an early age, but GOD! Praise the patience and Godly people He has put into my life to imitate His Word to me. I still struggle, especially when pressured, but God has been amazing as He has healed a lot of the woundness in me. I pray daily that The Lord would heal and Bless those I may have wounded, and to continue to do a good work in me!

  • Jessie says:

    Thank You Susan for sharing this. It’s exactly how I am feeling right now. I was just telling the Lord this last night in prayer, how frustrated I am with my life. I have been going through some rough patches and spiritual droughts since the beginning of the year. I have suffered a lot of loss… family member, job, church. But your words have truly brought some insight. Just in time to bring me some hope. Be blessed in Jesus name.

  • Penny says:

    “God doesn’t want anger and frustration to mature into resentment and bitterness. He doesn’t want us in the stress negative emotions can foster. And He doesn’t want us to get into unforgiveness.” It is awful the impact of stress on the physical body from unresolved anger and frustration. I know for I can feel the stress searching for which part of my body to attack unless I seek the peace of Christ. Your writing reminds me of a saying my grandmother always said, ‘be sure you count to ten, before you speak.’ I agree with you that a walk and a prayer will bring a breathe of fresh air to solving the anger and frustrations of our daily lives. Praise be to our God. Thanks for your message.

  • Karon says:

    On time word, much needed. God bless you

  • Virginia says:

    Wow, this is God in the mix! I have just visit my doctor about this same situation and how wonderful is this discussion on your blog, this has touch my soul in many ways. What I always remember in time of frustrations is that “when I am weak he makes me strong”, Thank You!

  • kunjumol says:

    Thank you for this powerful messages. I had the same situation about two days ago. It took a day to overcome that bitterness. Thank you Lord for the holy spirit companionship

  • Shirley M says:

    Hello Susan,
    Thank you so much for letting us realize that we are all human, but following & adhering to the Father’s word is imperative. Reading & following His commandments is key.
    God Bless you as you pursue God’s goodness and share with others.

  • Norman says:

    Thank you for sharing your experience. A recent experience with anger directed at my wife. I believe unrealistic expectations of people or the lack of capacity of people to be as transparent about truth, and lies, have a way of fostering the release of this negative emotion named anger. What was said in the course of my dispute with my wife is not as important as what I believe about what was said. My desire for the outcome be resolved “my way” usually precedes the provocation of the anger related event. The most beneficial thing I can do during my emotional tirades is to capture what I am believing and call on Jesus and worship Him and wash His feet with my tears. He inhabits the praises of His people! This window of heaven allows me to foster a new conversation with a commitment to understand, in this case my wife, even if she can not retort or capture my perspective. It’s alright. I need to allow God to be who Is; a provider; a healer; the restorer; the fixer, and all that He has promised to be. Promise makes faith possible; and faith makes patience possible. it is only then can I, “do all things without grumbling and complaining” (Philippians 2:14) “And my God shall supply all of my need according to His riches and glory by Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)

  • Stephanie says:

    I read this article regarding frustration. After reading it I thought wow I’m not the only one,
    But I have to say I was inspired after reading it
    and understand what I need to do when I feel this way. Thankyou for that, some lessons learned!

  • Tywana says:

    Thank you so much. I have been going through this very thing for two weeks now and I haven’t let it get to me but I was feeling corrupted and unclean. I did want to scream because it mad me feel like I was out of the will of God. I don’t ever want to do anything that will have God look at me and say child what are you doing? I love God wholeheartedly and I want to make my Father proud of me so Lord I ask you to empty me and fill me up with you decrease me increase you in me. Let your shine so that the people will see the good works of you. Thank you Jesus

  • Debbie Williams says:

    Thank you Susan for allowing of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit to use you. I needed this encouraging word. I have been so frustrated and depressed over not finding a job. But, I have to keep remembering God is my source not the job. The job is the seed. I will keep my mind stayed on God. That is where my peace comes from and trusting, believing and not doubting. Thank you again.

  • sandra says:

    If you keep your mind on God He will keep you in perfect peace. Always trust God’s word. Be blessed!

  • Aurora says:

    First and Foremost, thank you so much for such inspiring words. I am very much blessed to have had the opportunity to have read such truthful yet so motivational words. I love all the words. And I hope to continue to read such beautiful. Words. Thank you, very much.

  • Resi says:

    I’m really touched Susan with your sharing. You are a true women of God, thank you so much. I have been going through the same feeling at work for some time now but I thank God for using you today to save me. I have been delivered today.
    Thank you once again be blessed.

  • jackie says:

    Thank you so much for those words of encouragement.

  • Patty says:

    Thank you for being faithful to write this. It came to my inbox today and the odd thing is all day I have been so frustrated I could scream. This gave me a new way to look at things instead of reacting badly. Again thank you and God bless you

  • Gayle says:

    Yes, I have been so frustrated that I had to refrain from letting out my anger. I cried and prayed for God to guide me. It is a real battle for me too sometimes, it is just a battle of flesh and the Holy Spirit and giving over to the anger and frustration is just what the Devil would want. We must seek the Holy Spirit for guidance for the right words to come, let our hearts forgive and go forward as a stronger Christian.

  • Odessa Rowan says:

    Susan, Thanks for sharing your experiences. We certainly have something in common. I usually shut down-remain silent for a while until my anger and frustration subside. I then try to decide what caused me to loose my cool. Many times I perform better after an episode. I start out daily praising God

  • Jan McIntyre says:

    Thank you Susan. Your post rang huge bells for me, as I have often been guilty of reacting instead of responding.
    It is a battle between flesh and spirit and I realize that it is up to us to ask forgiveness and move forward.

  • Martha says:

    Thank you for sharing this real life experience and allowing your feelings to known. “I’m so mad I could scream” got my attention and as I read your article I was so inspired b/c I too have issues that make me angry at work! It is so disheartening to feel unappreciated and always feeling I have to prove myself over and over after. The scriptures you referenced are so enlightening….to obey God and do what’s written. Today as I faced those same struggles it seemed a little better. When I got angry and wanted to speak up and defend myself, again….I though about your article and managed to stay silent and pray. Thank you Jesus for helping me know when silence is the best answer. Thank you Susan for bringing light to a dark situation 🙂 Praise God!

  • Marina Fourie says:

    Thank you for being so frank. I really thougt i am the only Christian woman feeling so angry and frustrated. The problems in the country seem to have overwhelmed me and I work for a welfare organization where all needy people share their burdens with me and then at home, also the devil puts obstacles in the way. So yes, I lost it! But thank you for just reminding that we are in a continuous growing process. Thank you Lord for your patience and forgiveness. Holy Spirit please guide my thoughts and words. Next time I shall pass the test.

  • Ann says:

    Thank You SO Much for this Amazing message today. I so needed this message. I am in a battle within and this has been very much a daily struggle of prayer that GOD will wrap HIS arm around me and HIS hand across my mouth. I have a hard time with not beating myself up when I get angry, I was taught to turn the other cheek, you do not know the entire story of the other person, therefore give them grace. Sometimes my grace runs a very thin line. To hear your story and admit to myself, yes we are all human, even though we are Christians, we are of flesh. What sets us apart is how we handle the anger and frustration, with the teachings of OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR, handle issues with kid gloves (love) not throwing metal daggers (words) at the one who is pushing our buttons. You are such a blessing to me and your words seem to come across just when I need them the most.
    Praying for the abundance of your ministry that GOD has led you to pursue. GOD BLESS

  • Agnes ibaarah says:

    This is definitely God speaking through you, because I went through the same situation a few days ago but unfortunately I went on a rant with my contractor, I did however ask God to forgive me, now I think I need to speak to him about it in a more Christian way and pray that I will remember next time not to let anger lead me to sin.

  • Adrienne says:

    Thank you for this! I have been in a pretty rough struggle this week and have been feeling so very frustrated. It is a relief to hear a Christian woman express that she is going through a struggle too. Sometimes, I can beat myself up for getting so upset. Your words remind me that I am human and that it’s okay to be so… that I am not alone. God bless you. I pray the Lord blesses you with peace as we move towards the weekend.

  • Dolly says:

    Hi Susan:
    Thank God for you woman of Our Most High King, and for your transparency. As children of God we have all been down the road of screaming frustrations I know I have and yet and still but Thank God through the years I’ve learned and still learning to remember to cast all my cares on the Lord for. Abba Father truly cares for us. Thank you for reminding me that we can give it to Jesus he’ll bear it and we are never alone. Because of your openness today I was able to share with my young nephew your words to help him in a situation he found himself in and couldn’t understand why a friend since they were thirteen mistreated him so badly after just returning from a trip. I shared with him your words and he released the frustration to God on the spot. Whereas before he never would have done so. Thank you Susan for being who God called you to be in Him and I pray God’s continuous favorable productive great increasing overflowing blessings multiply in your life and your family also. I am praying for you and with you. Keep those inspiring truths of God coming. Take care know that all is well in Jesus. Have a wonderful glorious blessed day

  • Dovly says:

    I just recently was confronted with an loud, overbearing, rude person and I had to leave the situation and go to my car and pray. The Lord gave me Proverb 15. A Gentile response defuses anger……… ; I followed the proverb, and was able to defuse the situation, and the tension that began to grow in me.

  • Audrey Jones says:

    Thank you for sharing! I completely understand what you are dealing with because I, too, have been dealing with a similar situation for the past 3-4 months! I definitely let my emotions get to me and I might have said some things that I shouldn’t have, but through constant prayer, things are starting are starting to change. I thank God for that!

  • Carolyn says:

    Thank you for sharing. I definitely needed to hear this. I have been angry and frustrated with myself because of decisions I have made. Reading your heartfelt words will definitely help me with this.

  • Willie m says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Susan ,my first time repondring I really needed to hear this, God knows just what we need,because I have problems with issues that you mentioned. Thank you again and keep one another in prayer may God bless you .

  • Crystal says:

    Thanks for sharing I’ve felt this way countless times at work but I’m learning to humble myself and not entertain negativit it a process I thank God for progress….

  • Thembi Chagonda says:

    Thank you for sharing. This is really great advice. I have enjoyed reading it and the scripture verses are so accurate to the situation. I trust that God will help you manage and overcome whatever differences you were experiencing.

  • Denise says:

    This message could not have come at a better time. I am not alone. I will heal!

  • Michelle Gilbert says:

    Hello Susan:
    Thank you for your blog today. I was dealing with a situation this morning and unfortunately I let my emotions get the best of me and said some things to someone that I should not have said at all.

    I should have stayed quiet and prayed. I am a Christian woman but I am not perfect. I am still learning and growing daily.

  • Kay says:

    Father God, please also help me to move forward and not dwell on my mistakes just as Peter did. I also pray that prayer for those that have offended me. I pray we all accept the forgiveness of our sins that Jesus died on the cross for. Thank you Jesus for your blood sacrifice and antonment for our sins. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  • Kay says:

    I needed to hear this because I am so frustrated with a situation. God please forgive me and help me to forgive. Help me to show kindness rather right or wrong. Forgive me for not being a good witness. I acknowledge my sin and humbly pray for your forgiveness. I pray others forgive me also as I forgive them. Please remove every trace of anger, bitterness, and resentment from me and those that I have offended. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  • Mona Gomez says:

    Thank you Susan for sharing and for your transparency. This message is right on time. I had a few opportunities this week to get this right including this morning. I agree keeping quiet, calm down and giving my emotions to God is so much better than letting my emotions answer for me. The outcome is so much better to do it God’s way. I pray, I do this more. My mom would say if you can’t say anything nice don’t say nothing at all. Thank you with all my heart. Thank you Lord.

  • Thabiso says:

    Was very much frustrated yesterday as I was involved in a Car accident I hit a car from behind with a company car I felt so bad I screamed and I felt God was away from me very neglected and missing Gods Mercy But a friend told me to trust in God and he will see through all the documentation to be submitted as a result of that accident he said IN ALL GIVE GLORY TO GOD

  • Debra says:

    As a young Christian, I was shocked when I first learned that Jesus was angry (Luke 19:47). But I had a wise friend tell me that He controlled it by sitting down and braiding a whip. In that moment of time, He surrendered to His Father, disciplined His flesh and ultimately did what was necessary. What an example you have shown us when we feel negative emotions! After 34 years of being His own, I am still learning to not give way to the flesh. What a battle it can be.

  • Latoya says:

    Sigh….thank you Suzan. It’s a pity I didn’t see this email before I went on the road yesterday. I totally blew my cover in the supermarket yesterday because the cashier was taking forever to cash me and did not acknowledge me to apologize for the delay. I kept quiet for 15 minutes but after that I started to get upset and expressed my disgust very loudly. I was then told she was a trainee and after thinking about it I said I should have just kept quiet and not embarrassed her like that. Maybe I embarrassed myself too but I prayed about it last night and now as you remind me of how God says we should deal with anger I will be doing my best to exercise His instructions more. Bless you!

  • Cora Bailey says:

    Thank you for your honesty. I too have allowed my anger to inundate me. It’s one of the hardest struggles I have and reading your blog has been a great inspiration. May God bless us all.

  • Elana Holding says:

    I went down the same road this past week. It was not easy for me as it was people very close to me, and one expect them to protect you. But by Gods grace and much crying, I feel so much better. Susan you made me realise, these day to day struggles we go through its just to test our faith. I will keep you in my prayers. I thank God for the inspiration that you always guide us with. Please keep on doing Gods will. God bless you and your family. Elana

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  • Olivia says:

    Thank you Suzan for the inspiring message. My anger often gets the best of me and my reactions are always regrettable. I have always prayed about it and asked the Lord to give me patience and teach me how to keep my mouth shut amidst such times, but I am not there yet, still trying, I know with the help of prayer and inspiration from people like you, I will conquer.

  • Michelle says:

    Susan I’ll add you to my prayers and I guess as I’ve gotten older I have learned to be better at checking my feelings and words before I let my emotions get out of control but… Patience and control was never seemed to be something I was blessed with. So it’s still a struggle. Unfortunately my oldest son has my personality and I constantly tell him to stop, breath, and pray before he opens his mouth. He is so quick to fly of the handle and spout things I know he don’t mean or would never do but I worry about his emotional well being and his very new marriage. so keep us in your prayers as well. Thank you for your messages I truly enjoy reading them and they are a great help and seem to say what I need to hear at the time. God bless you and your ministry.

  • Sabrina says:

    praying much for you my sister in Christ. I think a lot of us needed to hear this even for me at my employment. It’s all good. God brought us this far it won’t leave us now.

  • Pasqulita Jackson says:

    Life is so un predictable and so are people. We all have felt like we wanted to scream we are are carnal as Bisi said earlier. So I think as long as we go through the emotion without allowing anger to control our actions we are entitiled and normal for expressing that feeling. I feel overwhelmed at times with work and home life balance not being the best at times and when the finances are tight and things break down it enough to wear me out. But I go to God in prayer and ask for his guidance and have faith it will all work out for the best . Thanks for all of the encouraging words I love Susan and all her work!!! Have a blessed day everyone!!

  • Madelyn Cunningham says:

    I have been there quite often. I have opened my mouth and said things and was amazed that I was that angry and frustrated at such small things. I started to call on The Lord when I get frustrated and it is my only answer. Now when I get frustrated I call on Jesus and thinking of him keeps me calm. Susan this an interesting topic Thank you .

  • Glenda Hand says:

    Susan Thank you so much for this post. I am there or at least I was there yesterday afternoon until evening. And I am still feeling the residue this morning. That is why I am so glad I opened your email with it’s catchy title. I started a temp job on Monday, and after going through all the background checks and drug testing and the 2 day training that was not an actual training, the company called the temp service to tell them that I was not a good fit. But, I really did not like the atmosphere and I was not sure that was where I wanted to work because I am just not used to such an environment. But my job ended and the temp service found something right away, so I wanted to give it a try.

    However, I know that all things work together for good to them that love the Lord……so they actually did me a favor. But the frustration comes with how devious the company is and the management. It was awful. so, it hurt a little. but I know I must go on and do what God has called me to do.

    Thank you all for allowing me this time to vent and it is encouraging and comforting to know that others have their days as well.

    Be blessed.

  • Lisa says:

    Too Late!!! I too had an angry and resentful day yesterday that had been festering for the last 2 years. During a meeting of supervisors a co-worker said things that were untrue, misleading and offensive and triggered a postal reaction on my part. I said things that I truly regret and wished I had read your blog before going into that meeting.
    For the past 2 years I worked under this supervisor that bullied, often humiliated and embarrassed me in front of other co-workers and clients. I prayed and cried before the Lord and thought I had it all under control. Even I did not see this coming and now I’m left with regrets, guilt, and consequences. Thank you Susan for your wisdom and dedication.

  • Nancy says:

    For many years have relied on God and the ” gift of forgiveness” inward and outward. For the last year I have felt like a duck in a shooting gallery! Wearing my spiritual armor and trusting that God’s grace(his Devine influence on my heart and it’s reflection in my life) has been sufficient! Getting back in my seat ,Ephesians 2:6 (he has to remind me when I try to go it alone). Remember scars toughen you! Prayers for you!

  • Mary says:

    Thank you Susan for sharing with us. I have been there some many times and didn’t know I to handle it. I am praying for you and your associates God Bless!

  • Meko says:

    We all have felt this way especially in busy and trying times. We all have to know that our life is a journey and obstacles will come our way. When we are frustrated and discombobulated what better time for the enemy to sneak in. We have to get it together put on the the whole armour of GOD. BE STRONG AND BOAST confessing the word that we live and breathe by. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, ” declares the Lord, ” plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Christian have to walk by faith and not by sight… however life happens buy we have to stay focus and not get knock down when but if so; get back up and be obedient to the word life we confess.

    • To God Be The Glory!! I feel the same way sometimes. Sometimes I just have a talk with Jesus or sometimes have a good cry and say Father forgive them for they know not what they do. Be bless.

  • Patty Kear Ross says:

    Oh yes, I have been there … I know it is so very hard not to find someone to “blow” off to .. to keep silent .. but once I give in to that and blow off to someone else.. then I have two fires to put out and it just keeps growing.
    So keep silent..run to your Father in heaven .. think on good things … get away by your self .. Daddy God will calm you and give you wisdom on how to handle whatever it is. After doing what He leads you to do ..LET IT GO !

  • Nancy says:

    Love it, Love it. I usually get an immense amount of cleaning done as my mind and emotions are emptied and refilled with the Holy Spirit. You are right about taking time to rid ourselves of this state so we can be renewed
    Thank you for the reminder to seal my lips before I have time to release.

  • Marlo says:

    Susan, I was surprised to get this email today because it was one of the other emails that you sent to me at Easter that really calmed me on Wednesday when I about lost it with my teenage daughter. I’m not saying that I did not lose it but I was so hurt because of the fact that you can give birth to a child and they grow up and totally disrespect and not appreciate you. It gave me some insight into how God feels about us, his children, rejected and unappreciated gor what He has done. I just want to let you know that I will keep you and the situation in prayer because I know I felt total despair on Wednesday I felt as if life wasn’t important anymore and there was no reason to live if you have no love from the family that you birth. Everything is ok now. I just felt hopeless on Wednesday.

  • Carolyn says:

    I, too, was consumed by anger this week and was driven to speak my piece in the matter in order to restore the peace in my heart. Was assaulted by words on a paper by a meddler a thousand miles away – I cannot say that my first thoughts were to pray about it. Like Marie Curie, I “believe that we are all gifted with something”….over time, I have come to realize that MY gift is that of writing it out….. I find great solace in writing about bad situations; it helps to lay out the offending words/actions and then work toward a reasonable solution – this I can do with Word Processing by writing, re-writing, re-arranging, re-thinking, re-stating…..and so on and so on. Eventually, the writing becomes calmer, as do I, until I am satisfied that I have used the gifts given to me by my Lord to a good advantage, and the anger is released. Do I mail the paper? Not always – it is often set aside and ultimately finds its way to the shredder!

    My Mother often said to me, in times of dis-harmony, “How important is it?” A question that I find myself asking in many situations or challenges today – I am only human and my first impulse is to respond with human emotion (anger, denial, justification) ; during my process of ‘working it out’ as described above, a calming descends on me and with it comes a reasoning of WHY it has happened, the state of mind of the offending party, and how my actions/words may have triggered the event.

    I am grateful to my Lord and Saviour for the gifts He has bestowed upon me, and ask only that I use the gifts wisely and with responsibility, that I never forget from whence they come.

  • Hallelujah says:

    Wow! this is right on time. I had a situation that happened yesterday in my family’s life and I almost went off. Thanks be to God who always gives us the victory. The Spirit of God helped me to hold my tongue. I vented to my daughter then went in prayer to the Lord for direction. I thank you for being so transparent. We definitely have those days when all we want to do is scream. I can say, the Lord handled the situation and all WILL BE WELL!

  • Thank you for your transparency and honesty, Susan. I am normally a very happy, joyful person who always sees the bright side of things, but this year has been especially difficult and last Thursday I did cry, scream and have a tantrum. Thankfully, I was alone in my car, but I did LOUDLY question the Lord, “Do you see me?, Do you hear me?” I was in despair. Not even a few moments later I got a phone call and received much needed prayer and throughout the day God strategically gave me His Word for encouragement.
    I feel that the Lord is allowing me to go through various storms to show me areas of weakness. It is difficult. I don’t like the way I have been acting lately (especially at work) and your words have been much needed to remind me that I am not the only one dealing with my flesh and that I can overcome my feelings by allowing the Holy Spirit to work through me and to not allow my flesh to raise it’s ugly head. Thank you again.

  • Shani says:

    You are such an inspiration to me and I am sure to many other. Thank you for speaking to us from your heart it help to know that we all get frustrated sometime but it’s how we deal with the frustration that really matters. I pray that God will continue to bless and use you as you do such a great job in help others through Christ. My prayer are with you and your associate and it will all work out for everyone’s good.
    Love and blessings

  • Lisa Johnson says:

    blessed is the woman that can get naked before God. Thank you. This message is not only timely, but well needed. We live in a world where Christians are viewed as superhuman, meaning we should not feel emotions. However as you plainly stated, even Jesus and God the Almighty had times of anger and frustration, dealing with foolish man. Be encouraged sister, your associates know not! I am in agreement, Father forgive them for they know not, and greater Father forgive me for I know who! They are not where you are and simply put, if they knew who you are, they would run and repent! Thank you Father for this example and yes those walks do a world of difference, but if you cannot walk, go into the bathroom, wad up toilet paper, name each wad by the emotion/ the thing they did or said and flush. It is as cleansing as venting, and you sin not in the process. ( I have been in the flushing business,several times and have flushed a many of associates and their behaviors and have come out and they have asked are you okay! Lol, I usually smile cause I know, like much waste, it has gone off to the pit, sealed and it cannot further affect me, giving me blissful thoughts of His Peace with each flush) hahha hope this helps you. Try it, I promise you will be giggling before long, and Satan has had his fiery darts quenched by the watery grave. God bless you Woman of God and readers of these posts, in Jesus Name.

  • Temilola Obisesan says:

    I am blessed by this, and I’ve been struggling with this kind of issue too. I believe strongly that when we are faced with difficult situations that cause us to boil on the inside, God is trying to work on our characters more than anything else. It helps to take the focus off the issue at hand and focus on ourselves and the work God us trying to do in us. He wants us to be “perfect and entire wanting nothing”. So while the strength of our feelings might be enough to bring down a house, it will not bring glory to God. Remember Jesus went through such, and He’s reaction was to be dumb and say no word. Sometimes we need to be like that too, since that’s the person we ultimately want to be like. So my brethren, even though it may be the last thing on your mind, but “count it all joy”…

  • Carolyn says:

    This message is perfect timing. My frustration comes from the choices my 19 year old daughter is making. Not only do I deal with my words but I gorge on food when things feel so out of control. Gluttony is a sin as well and I get caught in this vicious cycle. However, thanks to your blog and day devotional I don’t feel quite so alone in this struggle. My fast for right now is not to use food as a comfort but to seek Him who loves me and has provided grace.

  • Viola says:

    Oh yes, this is for me as well. Sometimes my husband and children get me very angry. I have said things to my children that I should not have said. All in all once it is out….I have been making a conscious effort for years now to always be mindful of what I say especially when angered. I do tell my children when I am in that state to “turn and walk away from me right now”. Once I have that time to cool down and think about the situation, ask God for patience to “listen” and the right words if any to say. So I thank you Susan.

  • Paula says:

    I have often times felt angry and couldn’t understand why some people would continue to spread the same lie and even gossip about it. But living in this world today this is the evil works and people don’t see it. So I have found myself saying God please forgive them for they know what they are doing. And then I pray for them. I hope that you and your associates have worked the issues out and remember to always be Gods light because we are his voice. God has given you a dream and it’s your company with all the people around you and when times do get tough turn to your bible, pray, and like you said take a walk. I will be praying for you and everyone around you. God Bless!

  • Marion says:

    Its funny you bring this up. Because I was angry at my husband this week for something he said after I thought we were finished with that discussion on sunday.

    Me being human I got angry and almost lashed out negatively. But, instead I said in a calm voice that I wasn’t going backwards but moving forward and I will not entertain or tolerate any thing negative coming from you today. Then told him this discussion is over and left the room.

    My flesh Marion wanted to beat him up with words from my anger but my Spirit said no. I wasn’t in the frame of mind to argue or defend myself from feeling hurt because my best friend of 23 years passed and I’m trying to deal with all these emotions and him rolling his eyes and saying childish things just weren’t acceptable at the moment.

    I thank GOD for keeping me from lashing out and later regretting fuel I would have thrown on the flames. I thank GOD most of all for the HOLY SPIRIT and the power of prayer.

    Prayer for me is needed,
    Marion Holston

  • Roderick Jernigan says:

    Yes I know how you feel, I am at that point now. Thank God for you, because you have helped me understand my frustration with some people. I must learn to trust God and let Him guide my walk.

  • Wendy says:

    Thanks for sharing Susan, I found myself in a similar place this week, I pray that you will find that place of peace and reconciliation. Lord Bless you!

  • Dorcas says:

    I think it’s good to experience anger & frustration. We need to know how to react when we feel those emotions and how to allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in the right direction. I believe God allow things to happen in our lives so we will know how to conquer our emotions and have self control. You seem to have a handle on it. Keep allowing God to use you to help others. God bless you and keep you safe.

  • Lisa says:

    Thank you so much for your honest sharing. No doubt we’ve all been there and can so relate to your strong feelings. I know I can. I loved that you heard what the Holy Spirit inside you wanted you to ultimately do after you took time to cool off. Thanks for always pointing others to Christ and for sharing practical and biblical ways to handle this very common problem of the battle of our flesh and spirit. You are a blessing. God bless you for your love and obedience to Him and continue to use you for His glory and honor.

  • Gena says:

    As clods of dirt we are bound to be weak and fail often. But thanks to you and your many wise and Holy Spirit inspired teachings, I KNOW I can be so much more, through Christ, who strengthens me. Stay strong, Susan. We need you, sister. In His love and mine too, g

  • Clj810 says:

    God made us as humans with a variety of emotions, including angry. He knew we would become angry. As you mentioned in your post …”be angry, and do not sin….”

  • Anita says:

    Wow.. such a great reminder for me.. I am such a reactionary instead of a person who Process internally first then responds… Thanks for reminding me today to practice , Response not reaction. May God put a guard on my lips!

  • Beauty Kutyauripo says:

    Susan thank you so much for your article. It only shows that we are human beings and not as perfect as Christ. I would like to encourage you to talk to God so that He can give you the Spirit of Discernment on the words to use during discussions with your colleagues. Ocassionally the devil puts us between a rock and hard place to remove us from God’s presence but as Christ’s children we should strive to do what pleases our Father in Heaven.

  • Wanda Hawkins says:

    Yes i’ve been there, seems like every day this week. But like you said, you dont want to do more harm than good. And why have to apologize when you can instead pray and get your flesh undercontrol. Maybe someone else is having a melt down and you are the person the Father wants to be the example for them. As the scripture says, “to whom much is given, much is required.” Susan, you have been such an example to me. You must know you are in our prayers as well as your associates and family. MUCH LOVE!, Susan!

  • I praise God for this post this morning. I, myself at this time is facing a dilemma with a coworker who’s operating in the spirit of manipulation. I get pass the vindictive things this person does and then it flare’s its ugly head again, not speaking of the individual but the spirit that operating inside of the person. I pray for the soul of the individual that God will someday touch their heart and give them a heart of flesh and blood. It is very frustrating at this point. The spirit in the prrson wants to walk over whom ever to get what it wants, giving no regards to others that have labored long. I have to pray for myself that I stay in the will of. God blessings in Jesus name! Thank you for the spiritual food this morning.

  • Tomekia Buckhanan says:

    I know how you feel been down that road a lot lately but I often tells myself tomekia be quit because I know if I say something out of frustration it might be something I would regret later so I listen to my spiritual music that calm me down and read a scripture afterwards and most of the time I can snap back to myself. It’s not easy I started this when I was thirteen , god delivered me from being suicidal at that age and listening to music comforted me and that’s what i use today and god always pick me up.

  • Bisi says:

    What can I say? I believe some human feelings (even negative ones) can be a positive. It reminds us that we are carnal and that we continue to need God. But look at what you have done with these feelings; you have turned it around for the good of so many including yourself.
    I will remember you in my prayers and I know God is faithful when we trust and obey Him.
    God bless you and the works of your hands. Amen.

  • Khay says:

    First, I would like to thank you for sharing this post. It definitely hits close to home since I’ve been dealing with the same issues and the temptation to lash out..but just hearing these words gives me the much needed strength and motivation to do what is right. I will probably continue to frequently come back to this post just for the reassurance of knowing that I am not alone when it comes to trying to refrain from taking matters into my own hands instead of relying on my God, whose hands are over everything!!

  • Mick says:

    Good message. Blessings.

  • Debra sever says:

    These words came at just the right time for me! I’m sitting in my chair getting ready to get in the word and in very frustrated and am dealing with righteous anger. After reading your blog I WILL OBEY THE SPIRIT! I will not let flesh win!! Thank you for sharing this and allowing Gid to use you in this time of need to minister to me and speak truth into my life.

  • Mariaisabel says:

    Thank you for sharing. I really needed that as I am currently in a battle with anger and frustration. I was brought up in a home where anger and frustration were the norm. I now see it trickling down to my children and I don’t like it. This week I started on a journey to free myself and my home from anger and this blog was just confirmation that I am on the right track.

  • Joan O'Rourke says:

    Thank you for your forthrightness. For me, I struggle with being reactive. Breathing before speaking is what I’m working on now. Our FATHER just brought this to my attention…HE taught me that feelings of rejection are mine, not necessarily the intent of the person I’m dealing with. And IF that was their intention, they’re hurting beyond belief and are striking out to compensate for what is happening to them… So many wonderful lessons to learn…PRAISE GOD!!!

  • Ru says:

    Sister, we belong to the family of God and we serve the Living God, so satan is so very pleased to frustrate us!! You just let him have it with your godly response!!! Get behind us, satan…you are not in charge of us!!!!

  • Darlene says:

    Thank you for your honesty and openness. A workplace is for just that, work. We are required to be professional and build relationships that gives us the ability to be productive to God’s glory and win people to Christ. Which means, God blessed us with our jobs, and we are not working for anyone else but Him. He does however give us the opportunity to be Christ like at all times. Do we all get caught up and let our flesh drive us, sure, no matter how big or little, thought or action. He asks us to ask Him for help in times like this, “and lean not on your own understanding, and he will direct your path”. You are such a blessing. Be Blessed! And pray before and for your workplace environment.

  • Karen Bulbuk says:

    Thanks for sharing – I think we all can identify with that feeling at least occasionally! I’ve found that the most effective way for me to deal with intense anger or frustration when it rises up in me is to temporarily remove myself from the situation, either by going outside, to another room (even the bathroom!), or if that’s not possible, at least close my eyes, and/ or turn my head away from the offending person, and then “vent” all my feelings to the Lord, either in my mind, or possibly out loud if I am alone. He already knows what’s there anyway, and that keeps me from stuffing it all inside where it causes physical symptoms. Once I have gotten my feelings out to Him, I usually calm down, and then I am better able to ask Him to help me, and listen to what He says. Invariably, He will help me see the whole situation from a better perspective. He may give me understanding as to why the other person did what they did, which helps me forgive. Or He may show me how my own actions or words were hurtful and triggered the situation that I reacted to in anger. Then He will show me how to go back to the person(s) involved, ask forgiveness for my offense if appropriate, and how to calmly, in a non-threatening, non-accusatory way explain why and how I felt angry, hurt, fearful, or whatever it was when they did or said those things. Usually, that will enable us to discuss & resolve the situation, and grow closer to one other instead of getting into a blown-out-of proportion conflict. Sometimes this process may only take 5 minutes or so; other times it may take longer, depending upon the intensity of the situation, but He is faithful to help whenever I turn to Him with it. God is good!

  • Cynthia Johnson says:

    Thank you for being transparent with your situation. Yesterday I experienced a similar situation at my place of employment. The situation I experienced left me feeling hurt and betrayed by members of my team. There was so much my flesh kept telling me I needed to say to ensure everyone understood my level of pain. Then I was reminded that just like Paul, I” am to be content in whatever state I am” Philippians 4:11. I prayed and asked God for strength to let go and give it to him. I may not understand all the ends and outs concerning why things happened as they did, but I do know that all things are working for my good.

  • Julia Lynn says:

    Actually it must have been His providence that I saw your post this morning. My daughter had a very frustrating morning yesterday & I cannot wait to share your post & the wonderful scripture reminder of strength in faith to help us to continue to grow our true character in His Word! God’s Blessings!!

  • Verla Shafer says:

    HI Susan! I can totally relate to your story. I recently ended employment in mid February at a job that got me angry every day. I was the supervisor of several staff members that were just so unproductive, irresponsible and frustrating that it took all my self control to not just blow up. My supervisor was not helping me by allowing me to take action due to a pending ownership change which made it worse because these staff members knew my hands were tied. My health was being affected – high blood pressure from the stress, inability to sleep thinking about it, tension headaches – and then I would go home and take out my frustrations on my poor kids. I would cry on the way to work while listening to that song “Worn”. I begged God to give me strength to make it through the day without being upset. I would sit at my desk and whisper “Jesus” repeatedly in hopes of relaxing my mind. I remember a couple evenings coming home and playing over and over and over “Losing” until I felt like God had given me the grace again to forgive my staff. It was a really hard year in my life. But I made it through and God has blessed me since with a new job where I do not have stress and my kids and I have a much happier home life. My blood pressure is back to normal and I have not had a headache in the last two months. After reading your blog I realized I cannot remember the last time I was mad!!!! Praise God for His Awesomeness and helping me make it through the last year!!! On another note I was to thank you, Susan, for your daily emails!!!

  • Princess says:

    This really helped me this morning. I am at the start of building my relationship with Christ and struggle with anger and bitterness due to past hurts. Thank you for showing me how to overcome these moments.

  • Karien Steyn says:

    No, you are definitely not alone. As anger is the secondary emotion, I can relate to the triggers of frustration, helplessness and ‘shock’ which very often stem from the “but it is so unfair!”- root situation! I agree with you, Susan, that the best is to keep quiet (albeit how difficult!!), and wait for the dust to settle. But how often I have failed to to that – with, as you rightfully say – regrettable consequences! Thank God for forgiveness, for healing and for the Holy Spirit Who prays for us even in these situations! Romans 8:26: Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. God bless you.

  • j Jackson says:

    Thank you! We live in this flesh, but we are NOT to obey this flesh! We have a standard to live by. What good advice. Keep the peace. Be prayerful. Be sober. Don’t fly off the handle in anger. Situations arise that make us upset hurt and angry but we as Christians are commanded not to react. Appreciate your blog! Be blessed!

  • Kerriann says:

    This is just what I needed to read! Yesterday was one of those days for me too. I totally understand when you said, “my muscles hurt”. I felt imy inerior man was playing a really terrible movie…in it were bad words, actions and thoughts. All that as a child of God I should not have been allowing in my mind.

    I arrived home, cried, prayed and ask God to help me. Today this email was answer to prayer.

    Amen. Thank you so much! Blessings from Panama, Republic of Panama

  • Laketa Sapp says:

    I would just like to say: Be encouraged. I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. This past couple of months I too have gone through things that has made me want to scream on a weekly basis. I thank God for his grace and mercy and just for pulling me through daily. Ive learned no matter what the situation may be, we must continue to walk in every season with faith and have cheer…no matter how hard that season is. When we do what God has called us to during these trying times is when God will start to change things on our behalf. You are an inspiration to the nation and people need to be inspired. Keep up the good work & be blessed!

  • Brenda says:

    Very good post and advice. Words to live by and model. When you look back you will be glad you followed his command rather than lashing out in a hurtful manner. Thank you.

  • Val says:

    I felt the same yesterday. Also for a person that are my supervisor and I prayed and asked Abba Father that He must please help me to calm down and when I do speak to the person, that He must speak throught me. All that I can say is that I serve a miracle working God. By the time that I spoke to the person, I were very, very calm.

  • JOHNNY Manery says:

    I am glad you sent this email because I have been
    Going through a battle in the flesh and you are
    Right if we will turn to god and obey his word we
    Will be able to over come
    My prayers are for you

  • John Girton says:

    WOW! I’m going through a similar situation at my workplace. This whole journey has been a test and the only good thing about this job is that it has kept me in prayer. You’ve given me a few sustaining scriptures to aid me in this fight. I thank you for sharing and will pray for your continued obedience.

  • Luci Conenna says:

    ” i see a mountain … HE sees a miracle ” …. may the hidden treasure be uncovered in JESUS NAME ! Amen .

  • Patrina McGowen says:

    Thank you Susan for sharing I needed that word. I am a dental hygienist that work 13 hr days with close to 50 people in a dental office. Sometimes dealing with rude patients or coworkers can make me angry in return and ruin my day. Your word has blessed me and I will pass this along.

  • Julia says:

    Thanks Susan for being transparent today. I need to see and hear from people, like yourself, that I count on for teaching and encouragement that you’re a REAL person, too, with difficulties just like mine. Be blessed!

  • CMW says:

    Thank you. Encouraging.

    I remember the days when it took a little bit to “walk it off” because it entailed getting the kids ready to go for the walk with me. But, the outcome was usually better when out walking – sometimes it didn’t work, maybe because things were already in the melt down point, but for the most part, it was good. The best times were when my husband was home, and I could “go it alone”… He was always good at asking me, “Do you need a walk?” “Have you read your Bible yet today?” “Have you been on the bike & had some time to work it out?”

    Church planting as lay leadership… people saying, “It’s your fault! You should handle this….” Meanwhile, you’re dealing with an autistic spectrum child, along with your other ones needing attention… and your husband is a truck driver… The song, “Refiner’s Fire….My … heart’s….one….
    desire…..” is worked over and over and over again…

  • Jena says:

    You have no idea how much I needed to read this post! My yesterday was extremely frustrating and I could not get control of my flesh! I wanted to vindicate myself but knew that I could not… I let my entire day be controlled by anger! Thank you for reminding me of these key points!!!
    God Bless you!

  • Ruby Burrows says:

    Thank you that word. I’m going through a similar situation at work. This really has help me on how to handle the situation

  • Laura says:

    This could not have come at a better time. I have been unemployed since last June. I have been applying for many jobs only to be turned down over and over. I was working on another online application/ resume yesterday and the day before. I hit the send button only to have it bounce back. Seems as though everything is fighting me. Thank you for your message this morning, I really needed it.

  • Patricia says:

    hi, i feel that way as well even this morning but thank God for His word it was not just me keeping calm but the Spirit of God in me kept me and i didn’t have to scream or pull my hairs out. This has been through sitting under the teachings of the word of God and still learning asking for the grace to continue. I strongly agree with you as a follower of Jesus Christ we are called to obey and be doers of the word of God. I am more at peace with myself no matter what.

    God richly bless and keep you. Love

  • monique white says:

    I have had a most frustrating week. I lost one of my staff and they tried to slander my name with an agency that could have really done some major damage. Even though I was frustrated and mad I placed the whole situation in my God’s hands and left it there. That was a huge step for me.

  • Gladys says:

    Susan, I had been so frustrated and my flesh didn’t feel good. I don’t like those moments when the situation become overwhelming and I get mad. It didn’t happen often but it’s a trying time. God always calms me and gives me a resolution. Don’t move until you hear from God, praise the Lord because He cares for you!

    • Claudette says:

      From Claudette
      Hi Susan you getting frustrated is not the only one. I am retired and do understand not everyone is practical if they are not told to do certain thing will not take the initiative. I am happy you take you spiritual walks to enlighten you. As this is the only way we can see others as Jesus does .Gods blessings.i am writing a book I would also Like some advice from you.
      Gods continued blessings

  • Debbie Candler says:

    thank you for the word I’ll be praying for you and your Associates you are such a light in this dark world….. keep enjoying your walk with God your walks of meditation and sharing with the world

  • Tara says:

    Good morning. I really appreciated what I just read. I really needed that. That is exactly what was going on with me. This was so helpful! I will do what God says. I will follow his word. Thank you so much Susan!!

  • Beverley says:

    Being there too many times. Its raised my blood pressure now so i took sometime out from work prayed and prayed. Read the aword. Spoke to Holy Spirit and my blood pressure has come down. I feel radiant now. My problem or should i say .”baby father” issues tried to rise again. (He keeps trying to control my life via our children – we have 4 together, although we have been apart more than 6 years). He tried another tactic concerning the children and i said very firmly no. And it felt good. Stopped him in his tracks before i got bombarded with his tactics again.

    To get over this i now realise give it to our Father and he does the rest. A lot of mediating in our Fathers presence helps a great deal. Its that truth word ‘Faith’. Amen.

  • Augustine Diremelo says:

    Thanks very much this massage has help me so much as I have went through the anger on Tuesday, what I did I had to admit my mistake and as I was told the truth to me it was not the right time but I forgave the person immediately. my prayer to god is to humble myself more in the name of Jesus.

  • Thembinkosi Ngema says:

    See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.The problem with the situation you are in is the impact it might have on others when not handled spiritually.I am grateful that you are taking that walk.It always help to have a time of solitude with God and to cast our anxieties on him.When you come back from that walk and you are still not resolved go and pray again.Remember our Lord Jesus when He was overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death, He went to pray three times, saying the same thing, and when He was ready, He then faced his betrayer.Because of his reverend submission under difficult circumstances, today we have a relationship with God.All the best.

  • Patricia says:

    This was soooooo needed. I am frustrated on a daily basis at work due to the lack of work ethics engulfs the culture of the office. i simply do not fit in and nor wish to compromise, however, the anger from the frustration has placed me in a predicament of being subjected to ostracism

    • Al Williams says:

      I know this feeling well. It sounds as though you may be the only God fearing person there, meaning, you are His ambassador! Stand therefore and allow Him to work through you.

  • Jamie says:

    The Lord gave me a dream many months ago…. A person walked around with a knife HUGE butcher knife… And was walking toward my oldest daughter and myself.. He wore a white shirt and blue jeans.. Clean cut man… As he crossed closer he did Stabb over and over myself and daughter! The thing about it was that we did not feel this pertruding our skin… We continued to move… I was in shock as I looked down to see me with no wounds, and not one spot of blood as I lay on the ground, it did knock me down, I stood up, yelled for my daughter, she too was okay!!! He however was covered in blood!!! Covered and so was the knife! As I awoke I ask the Lord, wow!! I wasn’t afraid and I didn’t feel a thing, he said CLEARLY, this is what happens, with slander, gossip, words of curse!!! The knife is WORDS! But the one that has the “sharp” tongue, HE is accountable, not the one slain!!!! Therefore, KEEP SILENT! The battle is not against flesh and blood but spiritually darkness!! Our love ones allow the enemy to use their voice and there hands for harmful attacks and we can’t commission to this!

    • Valerie says:

      Thank you for sharing your dream! What an analogy! May I use it to show others?

    • Jocelyn says:

      That is such a powerful message in your dream! I’m encouraged to know that God gave you the interpretation.

    • Maci says:

      Thank you. This gave me great relief and fortification. I will continue to keep silent.

    • Grace says:

      Thankyou, I needed your words! May you be Blessed!

    • Sonia UK says:

      Amazing dream. So significant and reassuring to realise that when you know words are being spoke against you, to remember that they have no impact on you.
      Thank you for reminding me that I am protected in every situation as long as I remain in the will of

    • Rosslyn says:

      Thank you Jamie for sharing. I confess I have been a slanderer, and have been slandered about. Lord please forgive me in Jesus name..

    • Susan says:

      Thank you so much. I wish I had a copy of this as this is needed to show others. I appreciate you sharing this. This is great for all to see.
      Blessings to you!

  • Jamie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing… It is definitely something I needed to read this morning!! God is so good!

  • Dr. Maddox says:

    Wow! I feel so convicted right now. It is 6:23am, I woke up, checked my email, and decided to read this message instead of rolling over and going back to sleep. This is something I struggle with trying to survive a blended family. I really needed this word. I will be humble and obedient.

    • Tracy says:

      Wow just reading this much needed word which convicted me tremendously, but more important this response. I am married and my family is now blended and I too struggle grim time to time to not allow my emotions/flesh get the best of me. Thank you for blessing me with this. I realize I am not the only one out there who struggles with this, but it is nice to see the transparency. I continue to humble myself and ask God for guidance. Everyday is a learning experience and an opportunity to be obedient to His word and the whisper of the holy spirit.

      Stay lifted in the spirit! Blessings to all who is reading…

  • Anquitra says:

    Thank you for your transparency.

    • Tshepo says:

      i really thank God about angels to guide us in time need

    • Brenda Wilson says:

      Thank you, this is just what I needed today. Be Bless and continue to inspire us to stay in touch with God word.

    • Justina Peters says:

      Dear Susan;
      Thanks for sharing; no you are not the only one; it makes me feel much better knowing that I am not the only one who experiences this.
      Yes I have gone for many a walk and talked to God…yes there have been many a time when I have felt like screaming.
      Praying for you dear friend and sister in Christ.
      Love from: Justina Peters.

    • Nolen says:

      I am currently going through a particularly challenging period and experiencing a lot of hardship. Your words and reminder of God’s instruction are quite timely….thank you.

    • Charlie Batte' says:

      Dear Susan,
      Thank you so much for these incouraging words. It would be good if every classroom had this lessons as the beginning of each day. Get the students thinking about Gods way of handling conflict. I know church against state…proably wouldn”t fly.

    • Ava Maile says:

      Thank you so much. This is where I’m at today. And God is so good. I receive this whole heartedly. God bless you. Right on time…

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